You will teach me how to live a holy life. Being with you will fill me with joy; at your right hand I will find pleasure forever. -Psalm 16:11 NCV
There’s this special kind of glory that surrounds God all the time, it’s an atmosphere peculiar to Him and we can take this atmosphere into our homes because we are His children and we have access to whatever God possesses. The Bible says we are the Temple of God (i.e. God’s house). This suggests to us that wherever we are, we ought to represent God well and make manifest a Godly atmosphere.
There’s an environment where all things thrive and grow. There’s another where nothing thrive nor grow. Take a seed to a rain-forest and you’ll see it grow. Take the same seed to a desert and you’ll practically watch it die. The defect is not in the seed but in the environment. Parents probably need to take a break from raining abusive words on their children for performing poorly in school-maybe it’s high time they check what kind of environment they have at home-is it the type that supports good performance in kids?
Some wives may need to stop attacking their husbands for coming home late. They may need to check the atmosphere they have created at home. Husbands, maybe you need to do some rescheduling so you can have more time to listen to your wives. Everyone need to do his part to make the home worth the name. Home is supposed to be a place of succour, replenishment and refreshment. This is the atmosphere where growth is feasible. A lot of people are working hard to succeed but what they do not realise is that they need a healthy atmosphere to protect their success.
You always show me the path that leads to life.
You will fill me with joy when I am with you. -Acts 2:28(NIRV)
Like God, let’s become such person that it is always fun to be with. There’s a vacuum in every person’s heart that can only be filled with Love, Joy, Peace, Encouragement, Celebrations… When we become that person who can fill the vacuum with the right things, everyone will want to be with us.
To have a harmonious home, consider these two key ingredients: Contentment and Appreciation. They both work hand in hand. If you’re contented, you’ll appreciate every single effort of people around you.
Low self-esteem gradually builds up in a spouse that’s always corrected but rarely complimented (appreciated). We need to deliberately overlook our partners’ shortcomings at times and just pay attention to their strength and appreciate them for it. We should be content with our spouse for only then can we genuinely appreciate them with meaning. Some experts have said that the healthy ratio of compliment to correction is 4:1 which means, people should be complimented four time more than they are corrected. This, of course, may seems unattainable on this region of the globe where chastisement and constant rebuke are prevalent at homes. But you can do it. You can make the difference needed for your household to grow and thrive.
It’s worthy of note that the atmosphere in our homes is the same with the one in our hearts. If the home is peaceful, joyful, loving and encouraging, our hearts experience the same. It’s for our own good if we can stop complaining about everything and start appreciating the good aspects. Many people talk more about their wants than they do talk about their haves. Please, pay attention to what you have and not what you want if you want to be appreciative.
Lack of contentment is a spirit everyone must earnestly covet to be delivered from. Contentment is not rooted in possessions but in the hearts. A man with a pair of shoes may be contented meanwhile, another man with 20 pairs may not be contented. You may be content with your two pairs of suits and someone with 15 pairs will still wants ‘one more colour’ of suit. Lack of contentment is a spirit we all must be delivered from.
Psychologists discovered that the last 5 minutes before sleep and the first 5 minutes after wake are the most important parts of a person’s day. Monitoring and respecting these times, as subtle as they may be, can go a long way in affecting the home’s atmosphere. Bond enough with your spouse and children so much that they will always want to spend those crucial times with you rather than with a stranger online or on phone. Be careful! Do not wake a child from sleep in an unruly manner. It may affect the child’s performance throughout the day. Be there for your family when they need you. If your family cannot feel your presence, they won’t miss you when you’re absent. Billy Graham once said “I want to be remembered as someone who it’s fun to be with” -shouldn’t this be something we all desire? The American Statistics on Marriage Research discovered that husbands who kiss their wives before going to work live longer than those who just rush out every morning.
If you want a home filled with wealth, health and love, it’s up to you to build.
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